Author: dansarani

  • Cupping – Fire Cupping

    Cupping This started out as a treatment in alternative medicine. It’s usually used with those that have chronic pain. But, like many techniques that started out in a different world…..it’s been tweaked into a bdsm play method.  I’ve only experienced cupping a couple of times. I love the pressure it creates.  At least 2 times…

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  • Quilling

    Quilling Recently, I was able to experience a Quilling scene.  I’ve only experienced it once before at a Tapas at Kinky Kollege. Tapas is where they set up little stations and you get to try different types of play – rope, electric, whips, etc. A couple years ago they had a Quilling station. It was…

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  • Role Play as a Kink

      Kink – Role Play Role Play – A form of play where partners act out scenes or fantasies while pretending to be someone or something they are not.  Common roles:  Teacher/student Angel/Devil Spiderman/Wonder Woman (sacrilege, combining Marvel and DC, I know) Cop/Criminal Prison Guard/Inmate Or in my experience: Wench/Tentacle Monster Why do people use…

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  • Fetish – Orgasm Control

    Fetish – Orgasm Control As with any fetish, people are into orgasm control for a wide variety of different reasons and the only way to know for sure is to ask. Orgasm control and chastity are often deeply psychological kinks. That is, people do them for mental reasons at least as much as for physical…

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  • Qadishti Eyes

      I found this journal entry while cleaning out some folders…..thought I’d share here….   Qadishti Eyes – On a Ship June/06/2017 10:33 AM Qadishti EyesDan and I taught a class at NLA: Orlando, called Qadishti Eyes. It’s not the first time we’ve taught this class, but it was nice to have right before taking…

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  • I came across this idea for Topping – where did it go?

      Available on Amazon & Barnes and Noble   I came across this idea for Topping – where did it go? First….I’m not a top. I’m definitely a bottom. Though there are times that I top as a Priestess. I use BDSM energy to bring about desired transformation in the person that has come to…

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  • Quickie – Polyamory Flag History

        Polyamory: The ability to love multiple people and/or be involved in multiple relationships within the context of mutual consent. History: The original polyamorous pride flag was created in the Pacific Northwest in early fall of 1995 by Jim Evans, who wanted to create an anonymous symbol for the polyamorous community that could be acknowledged and…

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  • BDSM vs Abuse

    BDSM vs. ABUSE We have been asked many times over the years about the difference between BDSM and Abuse. Sometimes it’s hard to put words to…..abuse is kind of like porn…..you know it when you see it.  But, then again, that’s not always true. BDSM, Power Exchange, …, it’s different from the vanilla world. It…

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  • The M/s Flag

          This is the Master/slave flag.    It’s been around since 2005, yet not many in the bdsm community know it. That’s because it’s for a small niche of the Leather and BDSM community….for those in power exchange relationships:  Doms/subs, Masters/slaves, Leaders/followers, etc.    I was told once that the straight vertical line…

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  • Ordeal Rituals – Collaring Ceremonies

    We’ve had a lot of people ask us lately about collarings and ordeal rituals (both with collarings and in general). Obviously collarings come in all shapes and sizes…..we’ve been talking about them on the podcast recently and during an interview with Kuldrin’s Krypt. Episode 634 – Collaring Ceremonies Episode 418 – Collarings This is where…

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